I think this really may be one of the biggest secrets of the Universe. The secret to why some people with a lot of adversity in their lives are happy – and some with every advantage in the world are miserable. It often (dare I say “almost always”) comes down to the stories we make up about what happened to us in our lives.
Example: The Weather Muffin and I just started working out regularly again. Accordingly, there are a lot of screaming muscles in both our bodies right now. Some where, some how, I decided that the “meaning” of sore muscles was very positive. That I should rejoice and leap for joy because that was a sign that wonderful things were happening. So, when I heard John lamenting that his muscles hurt SO badly and that he was in such pain, I said, “Hooray! Yeah! Brilliant!”
He looked at me like I’d lost my mind and then said, “It doesn’t FEEL like a brilliant thing!”
Ahhh. Feelings FOLLOW the story we make up about the facts!!! It goes like this:
- There are observable facts
- We make up a story about (give meaning to) the facts
- Feelings come about as a result of the story we make up
- Our actions are then shaped by our feeling (we stop working out?)
My muscles still ache – but because I really believe that this is a good thing – I’m more likely to keep going for it.
Try this. For the rest of the week, precede every judgment you make, about yourself, other people, or life in general, with “The story I made up is…”
You’ll begin to truly understand why you have the feelings that you have about certain things, and how those feelings have influenced your actions – which have gotten you certain results.
Start over. Find SOME positive reason behind those facts. Make up better stories.
You ARE the author of your own life!!! Why not write a best-seller!!
From your motivational speaker Linda Larsen. The one with the ice pack on her shoulder!