I know it stings. And I know that you probably won’t consider me your favorite motivational speaker after this. (What? I wasn’t even in the top ten?) But I still believe this to be true: The reason for your stress is you. (Did you notice the rhyme I just made? Dr. Seuss would be proud – if he wasn’t mad at me for telling him he was the reason for his stress.)
I hear a lot of people blaming their stress on others. “It’s my boss.” “It’s my mother-in-law.” “It’s that woman who had twelve items in the ten-items-or-less lane.” And while I do agree that there are people in our lives who seem to thrive on creating stressful situations, it still comes down to the universal time-tested truth, that you control how things affect you. Stress by definition is how you react to the circumstances you are in. Therefore, all control in how stressed you are, lies in you.
Nobody said it would be easy. And some circumstances are bigger than our ability to “fix” them. But a great power lies in us – the ability to choose what we take in – or rather what we leave in us. So take a moment to look at that person in your life that has been the root cause of your stress. And instead of saying, “What can I do to fix this person or this situation?” simply say, “What can I do to release this person’s hold over my life? How will I choose to let this affect me?” Again – easier said than done. Just like life.